Simple and Effective Steps to Emotional Freedom

Many of us have felt burdened or trapped by sadness, anger, anxiety or shame or other “negative” emotions. Although we often consciously know that dwelling on these emotions does not really serve us, once we are finding ourselves down in the pit of the feelings we don’t easily find our way out.

The simple and powerful tools described her have helped many people, including myself, to be more in charge of their emotions, so that they are able to notice and value them without becoming overwhelmed.

Strong, unresolved emotions and memories from past events or traumas are securely stored by our Unconscious Mind for three reason.

  • To protect us from becoming overwhelmed
  • Because we have not found a way to release them and
  • because we have not ‘picked up’ the learnings of the past events.

The more emotions are stored in our Unconscious Mind, the lower the threshold is for these emotions to come to the surface. Just like a pressure cooker, that needs to let out some steam, so that it will not explode.

This explains why we may sometimes start to well up watching a ‘Hallmark’ commercial or find ourselves exploding in anger and frustration when stuck in traffic.

Therefore, in addition to using the valuable tools described below, it is very beneficial to clear and empty the Unconscious Mind through meditation, hypnotherapy, Time Line Therapy TM or other techniques and modalities.

1. Awareness

We often say that we feel either good or bad, which is the classic black-and white mentality. What happens is that we don’t get the bigger picture / colored picture: The more accurately we are aware of our emotions the better we can understand their meaning and respond to them.

So ask yourself: What is it what I am really feeling? Explore and get really specific. Once you have named the emotion, ask yourself the 3 questions:

  • Does this emotion feel good?
  • Does this emotion serve me or anybody else?
  • How do I want to feel instead?

This will help you to shift the focus and become more clear about the meaning of the “negative” emotion.

2. Language modulation

Many words carry an emotional charge. What language modulation does is reducing the intensity of an emotion, by describing it with a less charged word. For example transform:

  • Angry into bit annoyed
  • Sad into sorting my thoughts
  • Afraid into looking at different outcomes
  • Failed into stumbled
  • Lonely into temporarily on my own
  • Rejected into misunderstood
  • Overwhelmed into maximized
  • Stressed into energized
  • Stupid into discovering / learning
  • I have to into I get to

We can also boost positive emotions by using words that increase their emotional intensity: For example transform:

  • Fine into awesome
  • Feeling good into just amazing
  • Good into better than excellent
  • Good into vibrant
  • Great into incredible

Working with language gives us a greater versatility. Like cooking – rather than using only salt and pepper, you may want choose from a large variety of interesting spices.

Using language mindfully and creatively increases your power to choose the emotions you would like to entertain at any give moment.

3. Simple Ways to interrupt the pattern

One way of stopping for example fear/anxiety is to interrupt the emotional pattern, before it seems to spiral out of control. In NLP we call it Pattern Interrupt, which most of us have used naturally – by starting to whistle when we were alone in the dark?

So rather than freaking out, we just whistled our fear away. Pattern interrupt is a very powerful tool to start reprogramming your subconscious patterns.

Here are some examples:

  • Take a deep breath with the belly expanding on the inhale and pulling it back on the exhale.
  • Breath only through the left nostril for 2 minutes.
  • Roll your eyes up to top of your head and slightly turned inwards. This activates the visual part of your memory and stimulates the pituitary gland.
  • Drink an 8 oz glass of ice cold water.
  • Cross your arms at the chest, bring your hands underneath the arm-pits, raise your shoulders high and start breathing long and deep.

4. Emotional Modulation

This technique will give you literally the sense of handling your emotions:

  • Focus on the emotion and notice where it is specifically located in your body.
  • Notice the size, the shape ( round, square, triangle, amorphous…), the weight, the density, the temperature and the color of the emotion. Become very clear how the feeling is expressed within you.
  • “Paint” the emotion in your most soothing and calming color.
  • Notice that every emotion has a little valve that is located either on the right (right-handed) or left (left-handed) lower side.
  • Take a deep breath in, imagine that you are opening the valve to release the pressure and energy of the emotion – then exhale with a sound (ssssssssssssss…).
  • Repeat this 5 times and notice that with each exhale the shape of the emotion gets smaller and smaller until it has the size of a marble.
  • Now you can take the small emotion and place it into a little bag, 300 yards behind you. Choose a safe and comfortable place.
  • Instead of the old emotion place a very soothing, healing or happy image into your body. Increase its energy through changing the size, color, brightness etc. Notice that you this way also intensify the positive emotion.
  • Firmly seal this new image / emotion in through 4 deep breaths.
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The Best Micro Businesses for Teenagers

Carly and her sister, Hannah, had a goal to buy an iPod. They planned to earn money by knitting scarves and selling them to friends and neighbors. When they brought samples of their wares to our homeschool co-op, the parents were pleased with the scarves and impressed by the girls’ initiative.

I had no doubt that they would reach their goal, especially when parents started requesting custom designs! Little did Carly and Hannah realize that they had just started a micro business.

Do you want to encourage your teenager to earn some cash by starting a best micro business? Micro businesses are a great option because a teenager can make money and learn a lot, yet still manage school work and a social life. Check more here about more micro business idea

A micro business:

  • Is simple and fast to start up.
  • Has no employees. There is only one worker, the owner.
  • Needs little start-up money. Most use what is already on hand.
  • Is usually home-based.
  • Is low-risk. A teenager wants to make money, not lose it!
  • Offers flexibility. A teenager can still have a social life, be in sports, youth group, and finish his homework while maintaining a micro business.
  • Finally, a micro business lets a teenager learn life skills while earning money.

Best Micro businesses start with an idea that meets a need. Brainstorm a few ideas with your teenager and see what strikes his or her fancy. Look for unmet needs among your friends and neighbors.

Usually, the best micro business ideas come from personal talents or skills, such as playing an instrument or fixing a computer. Other micro businesses offer a new twist on an old idea such as an innovative babysitting service.

Just remember that a micro business is not a major commitment. It is an opportunity to try out something new to make some money. By having even just one customer, a teenager can discover a new interest and a source of income.

My daughter Sarah decided to try her hand at web design and created a site for our hair stylist. She was paid $70 for designing a very simple website using free software. So far, Sarah has had only one website customer. Her interests have carried onto something new, photography, but she enjoyed trying web design as a micro business.

Top 10 Best Micro Business Ideas

1. Child Care

The time-honored profession of teenagers is babysitting, but a micro business can offer something new or different. A unique twist to a typical babysitting job might be to add extra services such as doing laundry, pet-walking or light housecleaning for an extra fee.

Or a teenager could offer to babysit regularly. One teenager made her babysitting micro business unique by advertising to neighbors that she was hosting a regular babysitting service every Tuesday evening from 6:00 to 8:00 pm in her home.

child care

Her customers could plan ahead knowing they had childcare that evening. Karen (Spunky Homeschool) Braun’s daughter, Kristin, combined her love of reading and childcare.

She assembled a small group of children and, in a two-hour block of time, read them a story, planned a craft, and fed them a snack. She charged $5 per child per week, offered a sibling discount and averaged $45 per family for a six-week summer mini-camp.

2. Lawn Care

Lawn-mowing, mulch-spreading and snow shoveling are great micro business ideas. A teenager may already have the equipment needed to start. If not, he or she should purchase only what is needed to get started.

lawn care

Lucas Rice bought his first riding lawn mower at a garage sale when he was 12 with savings from a paper route. As his business grew, he was able to buy more equipment. “Allow your business to grow, and then grow your equipment into your business,” he advises.

3. Cleaning

It’s not a pleasant job, but houses, garages, yards, cars and pets all need to be cleaned at some point. Some clever teenagers sell coupon books of cleaning services or offer to wash a neighbor’s car on a regular basis, say once a week for six-weeks, in a package deal.


One family with five daughters trades housecleaning for piano lessons. As one student has her piano lesson, the others clean the teacher’s house. Everyone is happy with the results of the trade.

4. Pet Care

Walking dogs, cleaning the yard of their messes, and pet-sitting for neighbors on vacation are great ideas. There is a man in my town who charges $10 a yard to clean up after a dog. It is not the nicest job in the world, but it could be a great option for a teenager or even a pre-teen.

Pet care

My friends, the Wonsers, care for other people’s pets while they are away from home. They keep the pets at their home in their large backyard.

The Wonsers have rabbit hutches and dog runs to keep their animal guests safe and happy. Your family could house rabbits, cats, and dogs for friends on vacation in a home-based pet hotel.

5. Music

There are several micro business for musicians, such as giving lessons, accompanying, and performing. Is your teenager a drummer? Eric Cieslewicz, a teenager in Ohio, teaches eight drum students every week. A teenager can use his knowledge of any instrument to teach children in a micro business.

Pianists are always in demand as accompanists for events or performances. My daughter, Emily, was paid for her time to rehearse and perform as an accompanist to a teenage cello player for his school music competition.

Some talented musicians are paid to play at weddings or social gatherings. Harpists, violinists, and pianists are the most popular, but garage bands can also be paid for a gig.

6. Tutoring

Teenagers can teach many school subjects, such as math, grammar, and Spanish. They make excellent tutors because they have recently studied the subject themselves. My oldest daughter was hired to tutor a 14-year-old girl in study skills to help prepare her for high school.

But tutoring does not have to be limited to academic subjects. Teaching art, swimming, and sewing all lend themselves to great best micro businesses. Teenagers might consider teaching a small group of children at the same time to maximize income.

7. eBay or Garage Sale Assistant

An ambitious teenager offered to sell his neighbors’ stuff on eBay and took a 25% cut for himself. As a garage sale assistant, a teenager could advertise, organize, and run a garage sale for friends or neighbors.

If he gathered several neighbors together, he could really earn the bucks! Another idea is to combine de-cluttering, hosting a garage sale and eBay assistance into a full package to help neighbors profit from their excess belongings.

8. Computer and Software Help Desk

Many teenagers may already have computer knowledge that can be turned into a profitable micro business. I needed help to straighten out my iTunes library after I accidentally deleted all the music on my iPod.

Dave had started a micro business doing computer support and he spent an hour answering my questions like, “What are the blue circles for?” and “What do the checkmarks mean?”

Then he showed me a neat feature called Smart Playlists to help get me organized. Dave sold his knowledge of computers as his micro business.

A teenager could be on call from home or, for an additional fee, make house calls to fix sick computers. Remember that what may be easy for a teenager can be very intimidating to some people, and they would gladly pay a helpful teenager to run cables or load software.

If your teenager is a patient teacher, there are plenty of people who would love to have help in how to better use their software. My daughter took a Photoshop class, and she then had three adults that wanted her to show them how Photoshop works.

9. Photography and Videotaping

We live in a visual age, where kids take photos and videos all the time. YouTube has made amateur videos commonplace and Facebook is now the world’s largest photo-sharing site.


A teenager could build a micro business by taking pictures or videos of parties and special events for neighbors. This frees up the hostess to enjoy herself and be in some of the pictures.

Additionally, a student could offer to film an important occasion such as a birthday, music recital, or sporting event and then create a DVD of the special event. I hired someone to assemble 40 photographs of my family for my parents’ 50th wedding anniversary.

They put the photos to music and we played it during their anniversary party. Their micro business idea added a nice touch for a special event.

10. Baking and Cooking

Dream Dinners is a popular franchise that lets customers prepare frozen meals. An ingenious teenager could modify that idea and offer to prepare frozen meals for neighbors.

cooking and baking

Or a teen could go to a neighbor’s home and have a meal ready for a busy working mom when she arrives home. Homemade cookies, cakes and pies are always popular too.

However, it is vital to follow your local ordinances on food safety. Some local food-safety laws require you to use a commercial kitchen or limit home-cooked foods to only baked goods and candy. Your local county extension or 4-H office will have information on food safety in a business.

As a variation, a teenager could bake dog treats since there are fewer restrictions on pet foods than on food meant for human consumption.

After the Idea: The Next Steps for Best Micro Businesses

After your teenager has come up with an idea for a micro business, there are a few steps to make before they launch a successful enterprise:

Conduct a market survey

Encourage your teenager to ask a few potential customers if they would hire him and what they would be willing to pay.

Decide on a price

A great way for teenagers to get customers is by undercutting the competition. My daughter ended up with more piano students than she could handle because she charged only half the going rate for a half-hour lesson.

She was happy because she was still paid better for her time than she would make working at a fast food restaurant or at the mall.

Be a volunteer

I recommend a teenager offer to do a free service for one or two clients to start out and see how it goes. It will teach your student a lot about the business and gather some references to use in advertising.

My daughter Sarah is interested in photography and took senior pictures of her friend Kelsey. Sarah loved it, and Kelsey’s parents were thrilled to receive a CD of over 100 photos.

Now Sarah can use their comments and Kelsey’s pictures to help launch a micro business doing senior portraits for friends.

Launch an initial advertising campaign

Word of mouth is the best advertising, and in this digital age that means using email and Facebook. Parents can help spread the word of their teenager’s micro business by posting on homeschool forums.

My daughter found her first piano students from our homeschool network. Also, consider setting up a Facebook fan page to advertise to friends and neighbors.

Pick a name and register it

Usually a teenage micro business owner does not need a business name; most can simply use their own name. I recommend waiting a few months to see if the teenager is going to stick with the business before choosing a business name.

Business names must be registered with your state or local government and this may involve a fee, so I recommend putting off that expense until the business shows some longevity and a profit.

Consider a checking account

Be aware that many banks will not let a student under age 18 open a checking account, while others may require a parent to be a co-signer on the account. A check is a contract to pay and minors cannot legally execute a contract.

If your child is too young for a checking account, he or she could endorse checks over to you and have you cash them. Minors can open a savings account and that can build good financial habits as they see the profits of the micro business grow, but will not have easy access to spend it.

Read up on taxes

I hope your children are successful enough to pay taxes on their micro business profits! If they earn a profit of more than $5,700 (in 2011), they will owe federal income tax. Depending on the nature of their business, they may also owe self-employment tax of 15.3% of their profit over $400. covers the details of taxes affecting teenagers. It also discuss services that are usually exempt from self-employment tax, such as babysitting and lawn care.

Learn about customer service, marketing and record keeping

There will be a lot to learn when running a micro business. Encourage your teenager to read books on several aspects of running a business. Offer to give them high school credit for what they are learning.


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Archbishops Palace

The present day Archbishops’ Palace was formerly known as the manor of Maidstone and described in the Domesday Survey as land held by the Archbishop of Canterbury at “Meddestane”.

The manor of Maidstone was given to the Archbishops by Rector William de Cornhill in 1207 to be used as a resting-place for Archbishops travelling between London and Canterbury and is inked to Palaces at Charing, Otford and Croydon.

The buildings surrounding the Palace, the Archbishops’ Stables to the east and ‘the gatehouse’ (Tourist Information Centre) were probably used as a mill and lodgings for the Archbishops’ staff of accountants, butlers, cooks and clerks.

Visitors are welcome to browse through the Palace when the historical meeting rooms are not in use. The neighbouring Apothecary’s Garden is open to the public from 1st May to end August Wednesday afternoons only. The Herb Garden is open every Wednesday until the end of September.

In the 14th Century Archbishop Courtenay swept away the original Saxon church St.Mary’s and built All Saints. It’s believed to be one of the finest examples of the ‘English Perpendicular Style’.

The high wall at the back of the Palace shows a sloping recess with a boarded window about 12 — 15 feet above the ground. Local Legend reveals this was once a dungeon and its most famous occupant was John Ball, ‘the mad priest of Kent’. His refusal to accept or conform to the established social order, resulted in the Archbishop of Canterbury sentencing him to life imprisonment for sedition.

He was sprung from jail in 1381 during the ‘peasants revolt’ — a protest at the poll tax introduced by Chancellor Sudbury — who was also Archbishop of Canterbury.

Ball was seen as a natural ally because of his beliefs and rousing sermons for the removal of the Pope and Archbishops acting as the clarion call to the masses.

On the 14th June the rebels marched on London and although King Richard II was sympathetic to their demands his advisors had no intention of meeting them. Realising this the rebels stormed the Tower of London the only people in history to have done so.


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Maidstone Borough Council is part of the Heart of Kent Consortium

Maidstone Borough Council is part of the Heart of Kent Consortium – a co-operation between Tonbridge & Malling Borough Council, Tunbridge Wells Borough Council and Sevenoaks District Council.

Each area has unique visitor attractions and accommodation and the aim of the consortium is to join these together to create a destination – The Heart of Kent.


To find accommodation in the Maidstone area click upon the preferred type of accommodation to link through to the Heart of Kent web site.

The tourism industry launched a new set of quality assured accommodation standards for hotels and guest accommodation in September 1999. The English Tourism Council, the AA and the RAC now all inspect against the same standards.

This means that ratings awarded to any establishment will be the same regardless of which organisation carries out the inspection. All of the Heart of Kent hotels and B&B;’s listed in the Heart of Kent have either been inspected or have applied for inspection.

To request an Accommodation Holiday Guide – please click here and complete your details.

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Getting to Maidstone

Whether you will be arriving by road, rail, air or sea, Maidstone – Kent’s County Town – is undoubtedly excellently placed and easy to access wherever you are travelling from!

Maidstone Maps

To find a Street in Maidstone:

Want more information?

The Maidstone Town and Country Pocket Guide includes local maps and travel information, along with details of Maidstone’s attractions.

Travel Information

By Car: 

From Dover, Ashford International Station and the Channel Tunnel via the M20 motorway. Maidstone is accessed from junctions 5, 6, 7 and 8.

From London and the rest of the UK via the M25 and M26/M20 motorways. Maidstone is accessed from junctions 5, 6, 7 and 8 of the M20.

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Distances from Maidstone
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Why not save the hassle of finding a parking space in town by using the award-winning Park & Ride service?  To find out more visit Digital Maidstone

By Rail:

Maidstone town centre is easily accessible through its two railway stations:

Maidstone East:

London / Ashford services: If arriving at Maidstone East turn right at the station exit into Week Street and you are in the Town Centre.

Maidstone West:

Gatwick / Strood services: If arriving at Maidstone West turn right at the station exit, walk down the hill and over the bridge into the High Street. This useful link may help you to plan your trip:

By Sea:

Maidstone is situated closely to the Channel Ports – useful links are listed below :

Eurotunnel –

P & O Stena Ferries –

Sea France Ferries –

By Air:

Gatwick and Heathrow airports have regular flights to and from all other UK airports as well as an extensive range of international destinations. Both airports are easily accessible to Maidstone.

Distances from Maidstone
Gatwick Airport41 miles66 km
Heathrow Airport66 miles107 km
Stansted Airport60 miles95 km


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